Dating and cuddling
I’d done this dance before, several times, always with the same result. Being in the middle has shown me just how wrong I was dating in the past; actually it’s shown me that I wasn’t dating at all.I wanted a different ending to my story this go around and since no man before him even took the time to approach me in this manner, I figured it was worth a shot. That I didn’t know these other men because we skipped over all that happens in the middle.No anniversaries to remember, no funny stories of how I played hard to get, we were just together until we weren’t.So it was for many years: wash, rinse, repeat, without me even truly recognizing that I was in this never ending cycle.We have actual conversations, not conversations laced with flirtation and sexual innuendo, but actual conversations that allow us to see one another without filters.Conversations that show how multifaceted we both are and slowly let down guards.
I can't even really tell you when exactly the together part happened, it just was. Having incorrect people tell you not to text him first after you just hung out. Which kinda sucks for the lazy daters among us, not to mention that the veg-out brand of dating is way less pressure. Casual date-sleeping doesn't even count as real sleeping. Perpetually meeting up with strangers to see if there's potential to love each other? RELATED: 11 Signs You're Casually Dating the Right Guy The 33 Best Things About Being Single 20 Guys to Avoid in Your 20s Follow Anna on Twitter. And if you text him first, you wind up staring at your phone willing him to text you back. Or is it simply lying in a gridlocked position with someone whose middle name you don't know? This summer we can have a cookout— I mean I can have a cookout, whether you're there or not is whatever, I'm not looking for a commitment, I'm ~*~*s OOOO~*~ not one of 10. Staying in is too intimate for you guys — there always has to be some kind of plan, even if it's just going to a bar or a restaurant. Or wear the cute, less-comfortable pajamas that you reserve for these occasions. You inevitably lose sleep because you're not used to sharing a bed with this person. Fielding the potential for utter and complete awkwardness on a regular basis.All things I’ve never fully given or even partially received in previous relationships.This path also comes with never ending smiles, laughs and the pleasure of getting to know someone that has truly been an unexpected, but welcome addition to my world.I feel like no matter where this middle space leads us, we’re building the foundation for something great that in the end will not only make us better partners, but better people as well.So here’s to dating in the middle, and whatever lies on the other side being oh so worth the wait.Then, after a long hiatus from all things testosterone, I decided to dip my foot back into the dating pool. 8 Things You Never Ever Say To A Newly Single Friend See I was all ready to repeat my insanity cycle when he informed me that because of similar patterns in his past relationships, he wanted to try to do things differently this time around. Just us actually taking the time to learn one another and truly date.I met this man a few months ago that, so far, has been the best thing since ice cream, pure magic (cue Tweet), and I couldn’t be happier. He wanted to take things slow, get to know me, actually date me and see where, if anywhere, we ended up. You’re just going to stand there all delicious, looking at me in all my fineness and tell me that we can’t rip each other’s clothes off right now? Now while my hormones were screaming bloody murder, my mind had to agree. I must admit this space is very new and very awkward. You know how you feel when your friend is like, "OMG, my friend Jennifer's friend Jennifer is pretty," and you're like, "Ugh, I don't care about strangers? Is cuddling with a casual sex partner even cuddling? Consciously holding back from saying things about the future. However, not to sound like an Old, but getting hammered on a casual date, waking up in some random apartment hungover, and awkwardly slinking out before he wakes up becomes tiresome after awhile. And you can't ask, because that's not ~*~*c Hi LL*~*~*. Your friends don't meet him — so it's kind of dull for them when you want to talk about him. Also: Harder for them to help decode/overanalyze his words, actions, general existence, etc. Being unsure whether cuddling is appropriate or not.