Singapore man to man dating
The surprised looks by strangers were one thing, but the harsh comments made to me by fellow Indians, especially men, implying that I had somehow betrayed Indian men as a collective, came as quite a shock to me.
I have been trying to grapple with this response and believe it all boils down, as do most issues, to racism and sexism.
He insists on dividing the household chores and care-giving responsibilities equally.
It may not seem like much, but active awareness can do a lot to even the playing field, in a sphere as small and as private as the home.
When Indian women, who are generally considered to be less desirable in Singapore for aforementioned reasons, date white men, this upsets the racial hierarchy in Singapore which places slim, porcelain-skinned Chinese women at the top of the totem pole and dusky Indian women at the bottom.Numerous advertisements and the recent Cosmopolitan Singapore controversy are testaments to this.Perhaps this is why so many people do a double take when they see my fiancé and me out together.It upsets gender roles that seemingly entitle men to women of the same ethnic group.As for whether I can be critical of heterosexual white male privilege and date a white man at the same time, I think this isn’t unthinkable if the man in question was aware of his privilege and the fact that his life is significantly easier because of it.To a young Tamil Singaporean woman like me, the concept of racism is nothing new or inconceivable.Nonetheless, it wasn’t until I started going out with my fiancé, who happens to be Caucasian, that I began to see a new side to racial discrimination in Singapore.But the statistics suggest that I may quite possibly know all of them.48.4% of inter-ethnic marriages that took place in Singapore in 2014 were between Chinese grooms and brides of the “Others” ethnic group.Here is why: If race was brought out of the equation and I dated an Indian man, it would be considered “appropriate.” However, when I go out with a white man, I am accused of disingenuity and betraying other Indian men who I should have dated instead.If it was not race, but gender that was the issue and I was an Indian man with a white woman, would I be criticized of the same?